We created a memorial garden at home to help us grieve - a cemetery felt too far away

When Emma Moore's daughter Mabel died, visiting her in a cemetery felt too far away.

"I don't like going to them and I feel like [visits] fizzle out," she says. "At first, you'll go regularly and then it'll start being once a year."

Mabel was born prematurely at 27 weeks in April, her lungs had not fully developed and she lived for just two days. Emma keeps Mabel's ashes next to a photograph of her tiny feet but she wanted a special place to feel close to her.

"So we created something in the garden... [to] always be reminded of her every day," she tells Morning Live.

The stillness of green spaces "can help us connect with memories" of loved ones, says Andy Langford, clinical director at Cruse Bereavement Support.

And there are ways to create a special place of calm to remember anyone you've lost - even if you don't have a garden or know much about plants.

"I'd never done anything like this before, so I had no clue about where to start," says Emma, 35, who lives near Bolton with her partner Louis and daughter Penelope.

She chose to dedicate a part of the garden with a willow tree to Mabel. "I've enjoyed doing the gardening and planting. It was nice to focus on something."

Of all the flowers the family have planted in Mabel's garden, Emma's favourite are the lilies.

White liliesare said to represent peace and are a traditional choice for acts of remembrance in the UK, says botanist James Wong of BBC Gardeners' Question Time.

The flowers are low maintenance and can last for decades, he says.

The colour of flowers in your garden a personal choice, adds Wong.

Some may find soft pink, mauve and lilac relaxing, while others may find yellows and reds more vibrant and lift the mood.

Wong says smell helps us connect to nature and works with the sight of beautiful flowers to create a peaceful atmosphere.

Many rose varieties have a fragrance but Wong also suggests choosing plants with scented leaves for when flowers are not in bloom.

"If you were to plant something like a mint, a eucalyptus or a rose geranium - they have very strongly scented leaves and they're around for a long period of time."

He also suggests evergreen Italian cypresses, tall and thin plants more commonly used for commemoration in warmer climates, as they are capable of growing "perfectly well outdoors in the UK". They have a woody aroma likened to pine or juniper.

Wong also says chrysanthemums - "a classic funeral flower" in East Asian cultures - will also readily grow here. They have a herbal almost medicinal fragrance.

Emma has placed a bench with a plaque featuring Mabel's name near the willow tree. She often sits on the bench in the morning with a cup of tea.

"It's her little garden," says Emma. "It's a really personal space."

Langford says benches are common in public memorial gardens because they offer "a sense of permanence".

If you don't have a garden, Wong suggests choosing commemorative house plants suited to warmer conditions.

The peace lily, native to the rainforests of Colombia, will "grow perfectly well indoors all year round" but should be kept in warm conditions with low levels of light.

Frangipanis are "incredibly popular [in] Southeast Asia" and grow well indoors provided they have a reasonable amount of space and are placed in bright, warm spaces all year.

In Mabel's memorial garden there is also a swing surrounded by planters full of flowers. It's a place that has given Emma comfort. "I feel like I'm still very much grieving but I can just go and sit there and think about her and reflect on things."

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